Positive Parenting Styles
The Impact Of Positive Parenting Style
• Have you considered whether your parenting style is better suited to yesterday than to preparing your child for the twenty-first century?
• Your parenting style is key to raising responsible children. Being a good parent, you need to know skills to meet the challenge of good parenting.
• Parents' relationships between each other and with their children are important for children's cognitive and emotional development and the stability of families.
When raising your children, you are actually mentoring and grooming them through formal and informal education. You become their role models. You are the initial powerful influence in their lives in their formative years.
- Eliminate the need for spanking, time-outs, and grounding
- Discipline to influence and guide good behavior
- Effective techniques that make "Temper Tantrums" a thing of the past
- Guide children to be cooperative, responsible and happy
- Create a positive and loving relationship with your children
What is your parenting style?
Parenting styles represent the different strategies parents use to raise their children. The basic styles of parenting are defined by the parents' levels of control over their children and responsiveness to their children. Parenting styles are not hard and fast rules.
Parenting styles vary with the parents and the children whom they raise. One style may work well with one family and its unique circumstances while that same style may prove ineffective with another family and its different makeup and circumstances.
One of the best known theories of parenting style was developed by Diana Baumrind a developmental psychologist, a leading expert in parenting. She proposed that parents fall into one of three categories
Three main categories of parenting styles :
Permissive, Authoritarian , Assertive - Democratic
Authoritarian -telling their children exactly what to do
Permissive - allowing their children to do whatever they wish
Assertive - Democratic - providing rules and guidance without being overbearing
Are you an authoritarian parent?
This style of parenting has been identified as the "drill sergeant" approach. Commanding the child what to do and what not to do, rules are clear and unbending. Misbehavior is severely punished.
Predominant for most of authoritarian parenting is effective in societies experiencing little ch
ange and accepting one way to do things.
The parent instructs the child on each act. The child learns by imitating. This style mismatches a rapidly changing society which values choice and innovation.
Characteristics of authoritarian parenting
Authoritarian parents have high expectations of their children and have very strict rules that they expect to be followed unconditionally. This parenting style often utilize punishment rather than discipline.
* Value placed on obedience. Have strict rules and expectations.
* Value placed on manners.
* Very demanding, but not responsive
* Don't give children choices or options.
* Rather inflexible approach to life
* Don't express much warmth or nurturing.
* Utilize punishments with little or no explanation.
Children of authoritarian parents
The effects of authoritarian parenting styles have been associated with a variety of child outcomes including social skills and academic performance
* Some children display more aggressive behavior outside the home.
* Others may act fearful or overly shy around others.
* Often have lower self-esteem.
* Have difficulty in social situations.
Are you a permissive parent?
Permissive parenting is sometimes known as indulgent parenting. This style of parenting make relatively few demands upon their children.
They take a "hands-off" approach, allowing children to learn from the consequences of their actions.
Misbehavior is usually ignored. Without clear limits, children get confused, feel insecure, and can make poor choices.
Characteristics of Permissive Style of Parenting
* Avoid punishing the children.
* Have few house rules or standards of behavior
* Few demands relating to chores.
* Child regulates own activities.
* Reason with child but rarely apply parent power.
* When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent
* Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent.
* May use toys, gifts and food as a means to get children to behave
Children raised by permissive parents
The effects of permissive parenting
* Lack self-discipline
* Sometimes have poor social skills
* May be self-involved and demanding
* May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance
Are you an assertive-democratic parent?
Assertive- democratic parenting is probably the most balance approach to raising children as it sits somewhere in the middle of permissive and authoritarian parenting styles.
In an ideal world, this would likely be the most favoured method of parenting. Parents who give children lots of practice in making choices and guide them to see the consequences of those choices.
Children raised by this style learn to accept responsibility make wiser choices. They can cope with change and are better equipped to succeed in work-force which relies on cooperative problem-solving.
Children raised by assertive- democratic parents
Assertive Democratic parenting produces children who are generally well balanced and able to cope with situations well.
The effects of assertive-democratic parents
* Children have secure social life and an ability to communicate
* Children help around the house with domestic chores.
* Children have good behavior
* Children demonstrate a certain level of responsibility
* Children are able to cope well and thrive in any social setting
* Children have an interest and curiosity in life
To your parenting success
Parent & School Collaboration
Sharing and Supporting Educational Goals
Aman Ceria is a family school that promotes consideration, cooperation, and courtesy. Parents and teachers provide the Best learning environment, both at home and in the school. Family involvement is integral to the success of children's holistic development and learning.
Our Shared Goals
School provides families, a place for friendship, encouragement, support, growth, fun, and involvement with our children's education.
A safe and holistic environment for our children to enjoy lots of fun daily activities that help them learn and grow. They feel loved, cared for, nurtured, encouraged to try new experiences and to face new challenges with confidence.
Our children are exposed to the diversity of people, cultures, music, food, celebrations, and traditions we share as Malaysians. They learn to respect each other, building their knowledge, skills, self-esteem and develop positive attitude towards school.
What is the parental role in education?
Taking on the responsibility in your children's education, you inspire and teach responsibility.
The interest you engender in them, the confidence you help build, and the skills you share will help them to take charge of their lives and education.
How to be the best educational role model?
• Stay involved in your children's learning with these great tips and ideas...
• You can make the world their classrooms and make learning personal and meaningful for your children. Your children will learn what it means to be responsible and will do their best.
• You can show pride, love, and pleasure in your children's accomplishments in a way no one can. This way, your children will feel less pressured, and you will have provided a happier upbringing for your children.
• Young children tend to be highly open and creative. You must encourage and let your children blossom in their own time and aid their development.
• Parents who attempt to rush their children's development may in the process do more damage than good.
Raising Appreciative Children
Ways to cultivate gratitude
There are many ways that we can cultivate gratitude in our children. Gratitude is a virtue that is learned and strengthened through practice. Instilling grateful feelings will benefit our children later in life
Raising appreciative children is a lifelong skill that nurtures minds, bodies, and spirits and has a long-lasting effect on maintaining a positive outlook on life.
Parents are children's first teachers. The first classroom is, in fact, our own home. When we talk, children learn to speak. What we do, they imitate.
Children who appreciate their home naturally brings with it loving side effects ... like graciousness, self-respect, self-confidence and overall happier children...
Appreciate children develop empathy and other life skills. Empathy is one of the greatest gifts we can give to our children because it helps them see the good in those around them.
Here are some suggestions
• Teach children to be thankful for what they have, even the little things like health and togetherness.
• Encourage generosity, donate toys and clothes to less fortunate children. Our children can see the good that donations are doing by seeing the old items in use.
• Encourage our children to say 'thank you' or send thank you notes as a way of expressing gratitude.
• Show by example, help those who need help, along with our children, so they realize how fortunate they are.
• Praise our children when they act in grateful ways. Make sure they know you appreciate them.
• Remind our children to practice gratitude at every opportunity.
Parents are role models for your children
• Although a parent's role in children's learning evolves as they grow, one thing remains constant, you are your children's learning models. Your attitudes about education can inspire theirs and show them how to take charge of their own educational journey.
• Parents are vital to the healthy development and growth of your children. Raising a happy, healthy children is one of the most challenging jobs parents can have – and one of the most rewarding.
• Your involvement is the key to your children's success—in school and in life. You can help them develop positive attitudes, increase self-confidence and achieve academic excellence.
• Husbands and wives must be knowledgeable and supportive of each other to make your children's school years the time of vibrant living and learning.
To your parenting success