How to Motivate Children to Behave Well?
• Consistently praising the good behavior of children will raise their self-esteem and boost self-confidence. They learn that they will receive attention from adults and will be motivated to behave well.
• Remember that praise must be specific; children must understand why they are being praised. Explain to them the reason that you are pleased.
• Children can be quite a handful and as much as we want them to grow up to be well mannered, good and kind, there are times when their behavior shows otherwise. The earlier we deal with bad behavior, the better.
• Children who experience quality time with parents do not need to act out to get their attention.
• There are a variety of strategies which may or may not work depending on children's personalities and behavior.
• All children are individuals and therefore, it is important to consider carefully which strategy works best for them.
Proven ways to change child's behavior
Positive role models
Do not expose our children to violence on television. Encourage shows which are conducive to learning positive values.
Do what you can to become a positive role model, avoid raising your voice, yelling, hitting, or shouting angrily in front of our children. Remember to keep your cool, hug and tell them often you love them.
A key to successful parenting is to have a happy marriage in which children can use as a model for their future relationships.
Children flourish when they are raised in homes with happy, balanced parents.
One of the effective ways to change children's behavior is to call them out when they are caught in the act.
Instead of reprimanding them, show compassion. Tell them what they did was wrong and why it was wrong.
You might think children are too young to understand, and it is up to us to lead them in the right direction.
The more you notice and praise them for what you like about their behavior, the more you will inspire them to repeat their good behaviors.
Praise for good behavior
When children observe you using good manners and respecting others then more likely they will copy your behavior.
You can also motivate children's behavior by reading stories that encourage good behavior.
When children are watching television always point out the characters who are behaving well.
When your children use good manners, praise them and let them know how proud you are of them.
Reward for good behavior
When your children show good behavior, you may reward them with your choice of prize on occasions.
But don't overdo it or they might only get motivated to behave because of the rewards and not because it is the right thing to do.
Simple thanks can works wonders
• Give children rewards that would help them in developing their hobbies.
• A picnic outing will also excite and motivate children to behave well.
• Give children inexpensive creative gifts, like baking cupcakes...
• You can also award children with their favorite story books.
• Offer children random awards so as to keep them motivated.
• It is important for your children to learn how to manage their emotions appropriately as they matures.
• Children need to learn that just because they feel angry; it does not give them the right to hurt others.
• One of the most effective ways to learn self-control is to learn that choices have consequence.
• Most success in life depends on making wise choices.
• Thinking ahead about the positive or negative consequences of an action and choose accordingly is a skill children need to learn.
• Providing explanations for appropriate behavior helps your children learn kind and respectful behavior
What Is Positive Discipline?
• Discipline comes from the root word meaning to learn. What do your children learn in the process of positive discipline? Discipline is not simply punishment. Positive discipline is learning to control one's own behavior.
• Punishment tells your children what not to do. Discipline tells them what to do. Children learn better ways to behave. They learn to direct their energies towards positive, rather than negative activities. They learn how to cooperate with others.
• The goal of discipline is to teach our children to make better choices. Positive discipline is an approach to guide our children to develop self-discipline, responsibilities, problem solving skills and cooperation.
• Love and mutual respect should be cornerstones of our relationship with our children. Using force to discipline our children can seriously harm the foundation of our loving relationship.
• Many literature points out that positive discipline approach is powerful in helping children to learn constructively, happily, healthily and effectively.
Using positive disciplinary techniques
Knowing how to discipline our children is an essential parenting skill to master. Children need to be taught about right and wrong. Every child has different developmental levels. You have to find a style of discipline that work for you.
Discipline requires consistency, so you must establish rules and stick with them. Positive discipline techniques teach your children how to behave and encourage respect.
These tactics must be age-appropriate.
* Discipline involves learning acceptable behaviors.
* Set clear expectations - the best way to guide positive behavior
* Set clear boundaries- as to what is allowable and what is not.
* Respecting boundaries and self-control.
* Reward for good behaviors and limitations for bad behaviors.
* Focus on solutions instead of punishment.
* Mutual respect- Kind and firm at the same time
* Effective communication and problem solving skills.
What do you do when your children break the rules?
• When you discipline your children, it is important to stay calm. Do what is fair. Do something that makes sense and will help your children to learn not to make the same mistake again. For example if your children write on the wall, have them help to clean up.
• You can use these problem-solving steps to help your children think through what happened and figure out how they can help themselves not to make the same mistake again.
• Don't using criticism because criticism will only lower your children's self -confidence. They will think that you do not love them. Avoid physical punishment. Physical punishment will make your children more angry and aggressive.
• Sometimes children need time out to get their actions under control. Approach time-outs as quiet periods for your children to calm down until they can think more clearly and act more thoughtfully. Speak to your children about their misbehavior and explain the desired behavior that will help.
• Positive time out teaches your children the valuable life skill of learning to take time to feel what they feel. And to calm down until they can behave in more constructive ways. Encourages children to form positive beliefs about themselves, their world, and their behavior.
• In this state of mind, they can learn from their mistakes on how to make amends for any hurt or damage their behavior might have caused.
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